What this blog is all about

2011-02-09T00:05:00.000-08:00

First of all let me begin by presenting myself I am Stefan (Steve), I am 21, I am from east Europe from a nice country called Romania. So if my English is not great please excuse me.

In 2006 I learned about the PUA community. I was fascinated by the wonderful world of pickup. So I started to experiment on the street, in shops, malls and even night clubs (yes at the age of 17 I was haunting night clubs).

The thing is all the success I had was with 6’s to 9’s but never a ten, why? The answer was simple. The chances of a high value female hooking up with a stranger in a night club are very slim especially when you are 17. They do tend to think that night clubs are just for fun, not for finding their soul mate. I am talking about the girls that want long term relationships. Clubs are for one night stands only most of the time.

That’s why I prefer online dating, I can choose to make a relationship or just take her out in a nightclub and try to game other girls. The misfortune is that I might lose the girl i'm with. That’s why you never go to a nightclub with a girl that you want to hook up with on a fist date. Only with girls that can give you high value status by being around girls, having a good time, attracting other girls.

So do I give up? NO. I still hit the night clubs. But the majority of the women I meet now are online. Facebook is a nice place for getting girls because they feel safe, they are not on a dating site. They don’t feel threaten so they are very relaxed and friendly. There are some beautiful women on Facebook, the only thing you have to do is to search them, text them and establish a connection. The ultimate goal is transforming a virtual friend in a potential date.

Don’t go on a dating website, its lame plus you can’t find good looking girls. You will only find girls that are desperate, why is that? Every good looking girl has men in her life that are chasing her, the better she looks the more competition you have.

Your job is to read carefully and believe in me. I will try to explain everything logically. It will only take 15 minutes to read and understand what I have to say then you can comment on my theory.

Why am I doing this? Let’s say that I want to share this to guys that have no friends or they don’t know how to pick up girls, are too shy to get out of the house. You’ll say well I’m not such a looser. Well ask yourself this questions:

Do you know how to attract a girl and make her your girlfriend? Do you have sex at least one time a month? Can you attract a girl that you met in a club, eventually dating her?

Even if you answer yes to all here comes the one million dollar question:

Can you attract the perfect ten that walks into a night club and makes every guy and girl think who is that beautiful women?

You only get the ones that choose you, not the ones that you choose, the bottom feeders. I myself used to be that way. I still can’t make the best looking girl in a club wanting me because my night game isn’t perfect yet. But I have some beautiful 10’s that are really amazing from online dating.

If it wasn’t for online dating I would probably be with an 8 or 9 right now. If the million dollar question is yes then you don’t belong here. If not then give it a try.

Let’s not waste more time and get to work. To succeed at online dating you got to have a strong profile. What that means is making a nice first impression.

HERE ARE THE MAIN POINTS OF HAVING A STRONG PROFILE:

First of all think of what kind of girl you want to attract, based on that you can start building your avatar.

For example if the girl is very well groomed then you have to convey that you are as well. If she has pictures with motorcycles then you got to have pictures with motorcycles. If she has pictures in exotic places you got to have some.

Why? Well let’s just say that it’s a conversation opener for now. She has to think you are on the same page as her. You have to be like her. You can’t change a girl’s perspectives in life so if she thinks a guy with a motorcycle is cool then you have to be that guy. I’m not saying that you have to own a bike, just make her think at first impression that you are a bike fan. If she listens to rock music you better well be a rock star. Do you know what I mean? Rock her world!

After you know what kind of women you like start your profile creation.

PICTURES

Profile picture has to be interesting has to include something out of the ordinary that will win her attention. A nice picture of you and some beautiful girls sticking their tongues out. It doesn’t matter if you know them or not. She will assume they are your friends.

Take a picture with an exotic dancer and say that she was your girlfriend and now you are just good friends.

Try to be interesting by wearing cool clothes, be the cool guy that gets lot of girls and he is interested in personality not looks. You have plenty of good looking girls chasing you.

Take pictures of two girls kissing you on the cheeks in a night club; pictures of you taking girls in your arms, dancing with them.

If you manage to convey that you are attractive to other girls and have a good time, she will be eventually attracted to you.

The best picture of you along with +2 girls is good. Don’t put a picture with only one girl it will confuse her and think you have a girlfriend. You can put pictures of you and a girl but in your albums and at the comment you present that she is a good friend.

Also take pictures with guys, make sure they are good looking guys, having a good time, you being the center of attention.

PROFILE INFORMATION

DON’T LIE about your aspect, age, height, weight, name, all the data has to be real.

YOU CAN LIE about interests, hobbies, music. Here you put whatever it is at the girl you want to attract. Not all but you got to have similar tastes as her. Be the guy that she LOVES.

Try and add high value friends. It’s very important! A girl may think you are a looser by simply staying at a table of losers. If you sit at the night club’s owner’s table she will assume you are a big shot.

WARNING! This pictures will not get you girls that are not so good looking or shy. Girls that are not socialized will get frustrated and they will think that you are out of their league.

If your goal is to attract a perfect ten then by all means do so.

You have to calibrate the pictures so you have a slightly higher value then her but don’t overdo it.

The Pick Up

Once you have the profile done you can start searching for girls. Try to find girls that match your description info, girls that you like and the ones you want. Don’t waste your time with 5-6-7s. When you find a nice girl look at her profile and steal some info. Music preferences, movies, hobbies, choose one and write it down.

Every girl that you will later mail should have at least one interesting thing that she likes congruent to what you like.

After you find 40-50 girls send them a conversational opener.

Conversational Opener:

Make her interested in you. How do you accomplish that? Simple just start a conversation with her, an indirect mail telling a nice little story that conveys that you do interesting stuff.

EX:

Title: NO WAY! I CANT BELIVE YOU DID THAT!? (this is the title of your message. You have to capture her attention!)

I don’t like anymore! I was the other day at the mall shopping with two of my best friends (write two girl names “x and y”) and saw a girl that looked exactly like you, she started arguing with her girlfriend about a pair of earrings. :)) She was upset that her friend didn’t like them and said that she has bad taste. The hilarious part was when she started swearing and almost got into a fight. To be honest you don’t look like such a badass after all.

This is a conversational opener that can be used to start a conversation. You convey that you are shopping with a girl, you are none threatening, make fun of her twin and you disqualify her of being a kind of girl you would date.

The example is just an example so you will have to improvise your own conversational opener (CO). Be original and always convey you are a magnet to girls. BUT NEVER BRAG ABOUT IT. You are conveying indirect by photos and lines like” I was the other day at the mall shopping with two of my best friends (write two girl names “x and y”)”.

Depending on the answer you will continue. If she doesn’t answer you have to move on. The best way to test this is if she visited your profile and didn’t answer to your first mail she will probably ignore you the second time as well.

If you think your profile is good then don’t change it because of some rejects. I will tell you that an answer in 50 mails is ok. If not then you have to change something in your CO or something in your profile.

But learn to not expect something from a particular girl you don’t know her so you don’t really know the reason that she doesn’t respond.

Girls tend to make excuses like “he is not my type” that’s why we have to calibrate the profile so she can blend in your world.

The Response:

1. FIRST ONE

The response to your first message can be either positive, negative or a test.

The positive answer will be a message about 30% (over that percentage she is yours) of the length of your message. So you continue talking to her by telling her interesting things that happened to you and at the end ask her if she was in that situation before. ”respond positive to what she said, then….You won’t believe what happened to me… MOVE ON WITH THE STORY”.

The negative is the same but saying bad things about the message. But think that she will not waste time to write if she doesn’t want to continue talking to you. Again write interesting things that happened to you asking a question related to the story that you wrote but the difference is that you will not be so friendly. “yea right… so you won’t believe what happened to me… MOVE ON WITH THE STORY”.

Her test will be a short message that will try to make fun of you or try to change the subject to see if you follow her. Never follow a girl’s thread. Instead write something different and see if she responds. Write a different story that is interesting like the response she gave wasn’t even there. “you won’t believe what happened to me… MOVE ON WITH THE STORY”.

REMEMBER: The story has to convey that you done something with your friends, or girls or something social.

2. SECOND ONE

Depending on the answer (positive, negative, test) you will give the same answers (same pattern as before but with a different story of course) THE DIFFERENCE IS you won’t ask anything at the end. Let HER reinitiate the conversation.

3. AFTER THE TWO MESSAGES

Once she reinitiated the conversation you have to start escalating.

Positive: “response to her message… story… question” but this time the question refers to HER. Let’s say you told a story about something that happened to you at the restaurant in this case you can ask “what kind of food do you like?”.

Negative:”I don’t know what you try to prove but it doesn’t work so stop trying… STORY…question” the question will be related to the STORY not HER. Ex: “are all the girls like that?”.

Test:”:)) your trying to be a smartass but guess what… it DOESN’T WORK ..STORY…question” same thing as the negative, question related to the STORY not HER.

4. SOCIALIZING

The ultimate goal is to get positive answers and eventually questions related to you. The moment she starts asking questions you got her interest. Always respond positive from that moment on and after some questions related to you, you can start making her qualify as a potential date.

EX: “respond to her message…at first you didn’t seem so interesting but now I got a feeling that there is more to you, don’t get me wrong your pretty but beauty is common (this is Mystery’s line). What are your main three qualities?”

If she responds with a nice long message talking about her and asks your qualities then you can answer:

EX: “respond with your three main qualities then say … You seem like an interesting person, the kind of person that I can hang out with. Let’s exchange phone numbers so I can take you shopping, I can use a female opinion.”

Notice that it doesn’t sound like a date plus you have an excuse of why you call and why you need to meet with her.

If she doesn’t respond to your question then go back to step three. Continue like that at a rate of 2 questions related to her for 3-4 messages. Until you built enough comfort for her to open to you. NEVER tell your qualities before her.

Just be a story teller. You can respond every day or once a week depending on the things that happened to you. Imagine you are just having a conversation with a friend of yours and telling him/her what happened last week. JUST CHAT!

After 3-4 messages you can ask again: ”respond to her message…STORY… you still can’t think of your three main qualities?”

You must be PATIENT. The longer you talk the more comfort you will build. So nothing is a waste of time.

STORYTELLING

Now that you know how the whole thing works you may ask what stories to tell. That’s simple. Ideas are all around you I am not saying they have to be true just saying that they have to be interesting.

You know the stories girls tell. Some of them may be boring to you but interesting to a girl. Stories conveying that you have cool friends. The important thing that you need to remember is you have to talk about stuff that she likes. If she likes motorcycles talk about a funny story, an adventure you had on a bike. Even if it isn’t totally true.

Communicate with her like she is your long time friend. Don’t do it logically be sensitive try to make her feel some emotions when she is reading.

EX:“OMG :))) I was dancing in a loud club the other night with a beautiful blonde girl and we were having a good time, and then I spot something in the corner of my eye. A big guy about 2 meters tall with big muscles was charging at me … my palms started sweating, you know that feeling that something bad was going to happen, because I knew the girl for about half an hour and didn’t know what to expect. I thought to myself OMG here comes another jealous boyfriend for dancing with his girl. I was in that situation several times but this guy was really BIG. So I kept my calm and with a nice smile on my face I sad “oh hi you must be Monica’s friend”, he looked at me started smiling and sad no I’m just fucking with you. :))) Turns out to be a friend of Alex, a good friend of mine that makes excellent pancakes by the way. So that’s how they decided to ruin my moment. I end up knowing the guy, by the way his name is …..wait for it….FRED!! He is a lot of fun and we started hanging out. Now I don’t have to worry about getting into a fight”

Notice how I try to explain details of: I socialize a lot by dancing with the girl and saying I was in that situation numerous times, how we were having a good time, how big and mean was Fred, what emotions I had when the guy charged at me, how I faced the situation with calm, and best of all I convey having powerful friends.

WRITING

You can write and add little mistakes like missing letters. This trick conveys that you were in a hurry when you wrote. BUT don’t overdo it. Else she’ll think you are dumb. Don’t write complicated messages, don’t try to be a smartass.

CONCLUSION

Try to experiment a month or so. Give it a go you have nothing to lose. You will see that your friend list will get bigger, girls may also start contacting you, if not they will at least start to visit your profile and add you as there friend.

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